Issue No. 1

Trust

Issue No. 1

Trust

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Importance of Trust

I live by the maxim “I will trust you until you prove me wrong”.  Last year, I was tested by a little girl in my classroom who was ALWAYS telling extravagant stories that I knew were not true.  These stories then turned into excuses as to why she didn’t have her homework finished, why she was late, or why she wasn’t completing her work.  I began to get frustrated with what seemed like a lack of effort.  So, I asked her one day to tell me about her life.  She told me a lot and most of it I believed.  I felt as though our relationship grew but the extravagant stories continued.  That same week a police officer came to our school to talk about “Good Touches and Bad Touches.”  Afterwards the students filled out a questionnaire that was collected by the guidance counselor and she followed up with every student who had reported a “bad touch”.  My student was one of them.  Most of the students just had a misunderstanding of what a “bad touch” was but my little girl -- she was being abused by a family member.  My heart hurt for her.  I felt that we had connected and even though I didn’t trust her every word, I knew that she trusted me because I had never lied to her.  This experience caused me to reevaluate myself as a teacher and as someone my students need.  My students all need me in different ways and some need me more than others.  This little girl needed me and I don’t think I was there for her.  I was too worried about being able to trust her that I didn’t pay attention that we hadn’t connected enough for her to trust me.  She moved away a few weeks later to get away from the abuser, but I still think about her.  Thanks to this little girl, I am now constantly working on my relationships with my students to make sure they know I care and I am here for them no matter what.  I sit with them and talk.  We laugh together, we work hard and we share things.  I make sure that my students know that there is always an open line of communication.  And I always trust them, but now I know that sometimes I have to earn their trust.


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Carrie Twyman

3rd Grade Teacher
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